— Taking care of a loved one isn’t always a walk in the park. Family caregiving means juggling many areas of help—personal, financial, medical, and more. Now you can talk to others dealing with the same issues. AARP’s Caregiving Q&A Webcasts are hosted by Dr. Jean Accius, a nationally recognized expert on aging policy, livable communities and long-term services. Register today to ask questions and learn about the issues important to you. How to Manage the Daily Needs of Your Loved One Tuesday, August …

— What do we do with dear old dad? Or sweet old mom? Or both? So muse the adult children of parents who are septuagenarians , or octogenarians, or nonagenarians, or centenarians, or, .. . God forbid  –  supercentenarians? What do we do with them? Where do we put them? To the rescue – Long Term Care, or LTC. Sanctioned by the Federal Government. Sanctioned by each State. A profit center for the large hostelier. A non-profit for charitable entities. A …

—     I wish these written letters could morph into the sounds they signify,  then you’d get the genuine sound of . . . what to call it? It’s not really abuse – but it’s not really respect, either, and it shoots to hell the declaration of “dignity,” which many – all, really – LTC facilities claim as their “holy grail.” After all, we are “elders,” with all the sacrosanct connotations the word embraces. Me? I’m eighty-four. A decrepit vessel …

— Learn how to create a family plan and find the support you need You may care for someone full time, 24/7. Or you may help someone with driving or grocery shopping a couple times a week. Either way, you’re a caregiver. And AARP’s caregiving expert, Amy Goyer, is here to guide you on your journey during the Online CAREversations Workshop. It’s a live, interactive event, so it’s the perfect way for busy people like you to access expert advice, interact …

— Cheek bones tightly squeezed, lips curved downward, brows furrowed,  squinting eyes shifting side-to-side, hypervigilance exploding throughout the dining room.  She and her cohorts are on the prowl – not for  leaping lions,   crouching copperheads,  scurrilous scorpions. No! For walkers. The bi-podal choice – nay, necessity – we elderly in my Assisted Living Facility. Being a Walker Stalker is not a personal choice by the sergeant-at-arms – although she seems to glow executing the charge – or the other hapless employees. …

— By Merry MacKinnon After she fell last December, fracturing and dislocating her right shoulder, 86-year-old Beverley DeSaulnier had questions about her personal care. “I’m right-handed and I needed help with everything,” said DeSaulnier, of Polk County. “I wanted to know how I would go about contacting people if I needed to have in-home care or needed to move into a facility.” She called the Aging and Disability Resource Connection (ADRC) of Oregon and talked to counselor Amy Crevola about in-home …

— Clackamas, Oregon – Oregon nationally ranks 4th when it comes to meeting the long-term care needs of older residents, family caregivers and people with disabilities, according to a new national report.  “Picking Up the Pace of Change: A State Scorecard on Long-Term Services and Supports” from AARP ranks the 50 states and DC.  It is the third in a series of scorecards from AARP with the Commonwealth Fund and the SCAN Foundation. Oregon has moved down from third in the …

— Purrr. Purrr. Squeak. Squeaky purr. . . You might not recognize the sounds from the spelling, but that’s me wheezing. I never knew what wheezing was.  But one night, as I was falling asleep,  I thought I heard a high-pitched purring under my bed. I rang for the caregiver, who looked under the bed and in the corners of the bedroom. No kitten.  I was nonplussed; the noise sounded distinctly like a lost and hungry kitten. But where was she? …

— Apps for online dating? Apps for senior (make that “old folks”) dating ?!   Well, it’s 2017. We “oldies but goodies” must find our way through a new paradigm of “boy meets girl.” Actually, of “dotter and totter.” Which may be apropos in my surroundings – an Assisted Living Facility. Move aside eHarmony! Out-of-the-way Match! Butt out  Our Time! Hello ALF! The match maker of Long Term Care. * *  * Charles and Charlaine are a couple.  Once upon a …

— By Mac McLean Juanita Santana knew exactly what came next when she retired from her job as director of a Head Start program in San Francisco. She moved to Portland in 2010 and became a full-time caregiver for her parents. That took up so much time that she never thought about what life would be like after they died, which happened a few years later. “It was real difficult for me to find my niche in retirement,” said Santana, 66. …