In my very first blog post a few months ago I cited my favorite Kierkegaard-ism about life only being understood looking backwards, but having to be lived forwards. I’ve been giving this some thought during the last week as I really try to imagine something different. No, no time machines under construction here, and I really don’t want to turn the paradigm around by living life backwards. But gosh darn it, I AM talking about the ubiquitous quandary of how we understand life while in forward motion.
In my years as a counselor more than a decade ago I spent many hours talking with clients about life. I look at the counseling process as taking someone from past, to present, to future. I found that talking about the past was fairly simple and free-flowing, like telling a story. The shift to the present was easy as well, a sort of relating of what happened in the last week. But I tell you, getting to the, “how do I want to take the bull by the horns and change my life in the future” was COMPLICATED.
As humans, we can’t easy understand life moving forward, except for short distances – the often asked question of how far down the road can you see? Well, that’s about how far we can plan.
What I want to talk about here is a real paradigm change. It’s about The Eye Of The Tiger. While there are always things in life you can’t control, having the Eye of the Tiger means you Take Each Opportunity To Triumph. It means you Turn Every Obstacle Toward Tenacity (of self). #TEOTT!!!
I want to refocus myself and take you on a journey over the next few weeks where we’ll look at LIFE REIMAGINED and how we look at resources to change the paradigm – the strengthening of our physical and mental capabilities that will help us understand life going forward.
We live in an amazing era, where so many things are possible. I was thinking this recently while reading a book called 2312. Despite the fact that the story takes place in the future, there was one line in it that was especially depressing; “Humans were still not only the cheapest robots around, but also, for many tasks, the only robots that could do the job… They showed up and worked, generation after generation; give them three thousand calories a day and a few amenities, a little time off…. and you could work them at almost anything.”
What was most depressing about this is that the vast majority of the billions and billions of people who have lived, have often done what was necessary, what was expected. That will always be the case to a great extent, and yet, the ability to self-actualize and find interests and hobbies and volunteer, and make new connections may be at an all time high for many of us.
Our ability to truly re-imagine our life starts with really knowing ourselves, what excites us, what we enjoy doing and how we want to spend the rest of our lives. It is about making ourselves a little better each day, a little stronger, a little more aware of how the road we’re on is getting us to the life we desire.
It’s time to start living life going forward and with a plan We will focus together on technique to get better, stronger, things you can share with family, friends, neighbors. I want to also share our successes. I will be blogging and tweeting (@ralphyaniz) more information. I’m looking forward to it. #TEOTT