— It was a strenuous effort to get out of bed, but the rise was self-executed; however, the shine requires help – a caregiver. After seating myself in the wheelchair and putting around with my computer, a caregiver knocks, enters and gets to work. She pushes my wheelchair into the bathroom, where she pulls down my pajama pants and guides me to the hard plastic seat.  No longer does she leave the apartment and say “just pull the cord” (the stand-off I …

— Our online Q&A sessions can help you keep your loved one secure. Keeping Your Loved Ones Safe at Home Part 1: Tuesday, April 10, 2018, 4 – 4:30 p.m. PT Part 2: Thursday, April 12, 2018, 4 – 4:30 p.m. PT Nearly half of family caregivers are caring for a loved one who still lives in his or her home. Another 35 percent share a home with the loved one in their care. You want a safe and secure home …

— Things have changed since I entered the ALF world, experienced its uniqueness and ambiguities, and began writing my blog, detailing the behind-the-scenes glimpses of ALF living. A portentous Activity of Daily Living (ADL) which I couldn’t accomplish myself and for which I needed – and still need – Assistance, was toileting. Formerly, the caregivers mantra was “Just pull the cord when you’re done,” when she closed the bathroom door behind her and left my room. “I’ll be right back,” she …

— The room rests. Waiting.  Expectant.  Readying itself to welcome a new resident, who will live out her days within its confines. I peer into the emptiness, for it remains a void across the hall.  The new resident will be my neighbor, as was the deceased before her, and the deceased before her, ad continuem…. Living in the same room for 11 years, I have seen many empty rooms through my door. What now rests quietly will soon vibrate with life. …

— Two residents died last week. One person had been on Hospice. Her tiny body had struggled to push her walker from her apartment to the dining room, laden with a container of oxygen, from which two plastic tubes entered her nostrils, filling her damaged lungs with life’s needed air. When she reached our dining table, she coughed heavily and spasmodically. The grating of her lungs ended when she banged the table in anger, whispering to herself and us at the …

— Join two live webinars to find out how to identify and react to changes in your loved one’s behavior AARP Family Caregiving Online Learning Series Recognizing the Signs Your Loved One Needs More Care Tuesday, January 23, 4 p.m. – 4:30 p.m. PT Local Resources for Caregivers Tuesday, January 30, 4 p.m. – 4:30 p.m. PT What if your loved one loses interest in a favorite hobby? Or misses an in important date? Or forgets to pay the bills? What …

— Clackamas, OR – To recognize their integral work to support family caregivers in Oregon, AARP names Sen. Elizabeth Steiner Hayward, Sen. Jackie Winters, Sen. Richard Devlin, Sen. Tim Knopp, Rep. Nancy Nathanson, Rep. Dan Rayfield, and Rep. Greg Smith as 2017 “Capitol Caregivers,” a bipartisan group of nearly 100 elected officials from more than 30 states. These leaders have advanced policies to support Oregon’s family caregivers, who help their parents, spouses and other loved ones live independently at home and …

— Do you remember Charles and Charlane who began dating in an assisted living facility? You may have read about their first stirrings of togetherness, and how they were swept up into a full-fledged romance in Where Singles Meet. Their story ended with the growing physical and mental enfeeblement of Charles, and Charlane’s worsening forgetfulness – the inexorable sprouting of dementia. But they were inseparable. Glued. Like a fraternity pinning in college days gone by. Then the unavoidable! The ineluctable course of …

—   By Mac McLean Cameron Smith has a simple message for the state’s 311,000 veterans: We’re here to help. But he’s having difficulty getting that message across. “Sometimes, our veterans have not been raising their hands,” said Smith, director of the Oregon Department of Veterans Affairs (ODVA) since 2013. “We can do a much better job at helping them connect.” Smith launched a series of campaigns two years ago aimed at older, female and LGBTQ veterans. He’s forming new partnerships …

— In the Beginning was the first blue light of the TV screen, reflecting the plains and mountains of the “vast wasteland.” In those primitive days of TV viewing, when I tired of the eye candy I was snacking, I  left my comfortable perch in order to turn the tuner to another sweet shoppe. Nowadays, when all the old and disabled folks who reside in my ALF (Assisted Living Facililty) want to channel-surf, we ask a caregiver to make the necessary changes …