Who is your family? Who can you count on at 3:00 a.m. to respond to your beck and call? And, who will you companion - without question - through the trials and tribulations of life? Your answers obviously depend on your age, your lifestyle (married, single, divorced, widowed, partnered, etc.), AND your relationship with critters - animals of all shapes and sizes! In our home, four-legged, furry critters are essential family members. So, critter care is an important aspect of our every day existence.
Today, let’s chat about how we learn to care—for others and for ourselves. Who serves as your role model for caregiving? Care receiving? What is your family legacy of care? What family or cultural patterns of caregiving are you repeating or rejecting? What legacy of care are you conveying to your family and friends?
As human beings, we will experience the highs and lows of life - and the transitions between the peaks and valleys are rough. It is during the stressful, difficult times that we realize the importance of resilience - the ability to “BOUNCE back” from adversity. Resilience is not a trait. Rather, it is a process of adaptation. When life unfolds in unexpected or unwanted ways, we are better served to BEND (adapt) as opposed to being broken by life (resist). Resilience—a process that benefits caregivers and care receivers alike.
Over the past twelve years, I have presented thousands of programs on various aspects of caregiving. I can’t discuss caregiving without addressing the issue of CHANGE. I always ask those in attendance if they welcome and enjoy CHANGE. CHANGE. The word alone triggers anxiety, fear, and discomfort. People squirm in their seats. Look at me in disbelief. Groan loudly! Or laugh nervously. Obviously, CHANGE is not a pleasant experience for most us. However, CHANGE is an inherent part of life—certainly an abiding aspect of caregiving. CHANGE is inevitable and unavoidable. So, instead of fearing CHANGE, let’s understand and effectively deal with CHANGE. The bi-weekly podcast is free and available four ways:
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