Resources for Veterans and Caregivers During the Pandemic

By Amy Goyer

As a live-in caregiver for my father, who was a veteran of WWII and the Korean War and developed Alzheimer’s later in life, there were many challenges around providing hands-on care, managing his health care and obtaining home-based services. Fortunately, we found support from the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA). Dad passed on two years ago, and I frequently reflect about how much more difficult it all would have been with the new obstacles created by the coronavirus. Veteran and military caregivers are fighting on the frontlines in this pandemic in unprecedented ways. But AARP is here to offer guidance and assistance. Each of the resources below can be found at www.aarp.org/ms.

Challenge: Making connections

As military and veteran caregivers focus on care for their loved ones, they struggle with isolation, which can be detrimental to both physical and mental health. Getting together with friends or attending caregiver support groups can be very helpful, but in-person connections are largely no longer possible due to the pandemic.

Support:

AARP Family Caregivers Discussion Group: A place to connect, share practical tips, offer support, and discuss family caregiving experiences with other caregivers.

AARP Friendly Voices: Created to combat isolation, caregivers can sign up for friendly calls from trained volunteers for themselves and/or their loved ones.

Challenge: Help for In-home and distance caregivers

Many caregivers have cut back or completely cancelled in-home help due to concerns about their loved ones’ health and safety. Adult day services and community centers are closed or operating on a scaled-back basis, limiting days and number of participants. Transportation services may not be available, or caregivers may curtail use if they are not confident of safety precautions in vehicles. The more caregivers go it alone, the faster they can become overwhelmed and burned out. Caregivers whose loved ones live in facilities are also struggling with limited or no in-person visits and diminished ability to advocate for them.

Support:

AARP Community Connections: Created in response to the pandemic, Community Connections provides a listing of local mutual aid groups – neighbors helping neighbors.

 Military Guide: AARP and the Elizabeth Dole Foundation created Supporting Military, Veteran and Family Caregivers During the Pandemic — a fact sheet with practical tips about how to update your caregiving plan, deal with medications, handle medical visits and tele-health, create regular social connections, and maintain personal safety and self-care.

Nursing Homes: For those who are caring for veterans living in facilities, AARP provides up-to-date information on all the issues facing nursing homes today.

Challenge: Work-life balance

Not only are military and veteran caregivers doing more hands-on caregiving, many are also working paid jobs at home due to the pandemic. For some, their time is stretched even thinner as they ensure their children are staying on-task with e-learning. Caring intensely for multiple people while working exacerbates stress levels quickly.

Support:

Military Caregiver Employers Guides: This toolkit provides guidance for employers to better understand the unique challenges facing caregivers in the workplace.

Challenge: Self-care

Concerns about the uncertainty of the pandemic and keeping loved ones and themselves safe and healthy are common for everyone these days. But for caregivers, the pressure to protect loved ones is particularly intense as our veterans and wounded military service members are more susceptible to becoming seriously ill from COVID-19.

As caregivers struggle to meet the needs of service members — and all family members — while dealing with fewer caregiver supports, self-care moves even further down the list. The sum of all of these issues can lead to emotional and physical exhaustion, disturbed sleep, feelings of negativity, apathy and hopelessness — a path to caregiver burnout.

Support:

Mental Health Center: AARP’s mental health resource page was created to provide advice and guidance to caregivers and others seeking additional help during these tough times.

As the pandemic unfolds, AARP will continue to work hard to deliver free resources and other solutions at aarp.org/veterans. Thank you to all of you who are staying the course as you continue to care for our veterans and military service members – we salute you!

Amy Goyer is AARP's family and caregiving expert and author of Juggling Life, Work and Caregiving. Connect with Amy on amygoyer.com, Facebook, Twitter, in AARP's Online Community and in the AARP Facebook Family Caregivers Group.