In Conversation …. Don’t Call Me Elderly

A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?

Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.

I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?

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